Do you remember the time when you didn’t feel the need to have any source of social media on your phone – or even a phone for that matter? I did – and it was awesome.
Nowadays it seems like we can’t live without having to check Facebook or Instagram every twenty minutes, and it’s definitely not a good sign.
The majority of us don’t realize that refreshing our news feeds makes us overly obsessed with things that, well, aren’t important at all.
Even the fact that we can’t get off of our phones is sickening. Why do we do this to ourselves? In that case, do we really need to carry our phones with us at all times?
I was definitely one of those people. I was always holding my phone; I rarely put it in my purse or pocket when I went out. Why did I do this, you ask? I felt like I needed to check it constantly in case I missed out on something important (not like it still wouldn’t be there afterwards, but it was an obsession).
Do you know what’s sadder than this? The fact that they have an actual condition for those obsessed with checking their smartphones, and when it gets incredibly serious, you have to go to rehab.
Nomophobia – which is a term describing the fear of being without a mobile device or any phone contact, is an actual condition in which you feel so anxious when you don’t have your phone with you, that you’ll do anything to get it back.
A few weeks ago, I was watching a Brazilian documentary about nomophobia. There was a woman in her early twenties that couldn’t live without having her phone around. Not only that, but when she didn’t have it, she starting experimenting with drugs – like cocaine. Her condition and anxiety issues had gotten so serious, that she had to be sent to a rehab facility far away from the city – without the use of her smartphone.
Why did she go on drugs? Possibly to fill the emptiness of not having her phone around her? If this is the case, then the use of smartphones has become incredibly dangerous. Another thing about smartphones is the fact that the majority of us feel the need to post everything about our lives. I mean, posting photos are great, but writing a paragraph long about how you and your significant other got into an argument is not necessarily the best decision.
We’ve gotten so accustomed to posting things on social media, that we don’t even realize what we’re posting anymore, or if it’s even appropriate for our friends to see. It’s not necessary for others to know about your private matters, especially due to the fact that you probably no longer keep in touch with about 85-90% of your Facebook friend’s list – am I correct?
Then there are those individuals who love to upload photos or their material possessions, and then criticize other’s because of what they have.
Uploading a photo of a gift that your boyfriend purchased for you, and writing “My boyfriend is better than yours” makes you seem quite shallow and superficial, don’t you think? I mean, it’s understandable that you’re happy with the gift (because, who wouldn’t be?), but writing about how your boyfriend is better than anyone else’s just because he got you a gift just makes you sound incredibly awful.
This isn’t the only thing I’ve seen via Facebook or Instagram; the fact that there are people who think it’s okay to comment underneath someone’s photo with an insult is just wrong. Why is it okay to make fun of what they’re wearing? Because what your wearing is an expensive brand name, and theirs is fake? That’s just not right at all.
I would be completely humiliated if someone commented underneath my Instagram photo with something like “Your purse is fake, lol”… You and I know that, so was it necessary to let others know as well? Did commenting this make your life better in any possible way? I doubt it. It’s just hurtful and wrong. Certain things shouldn’t be said, and kept to yourself.
If this is why people feel the need to have their smartphones with them at all times, then it’s definitely not the greatest possession, and it’s a form of bullying.
One thing I seemed to have realized ever since I began to put my phone in my purse whenever I went out, is how ridiculous it is when I’m out with a friend, and they’re constantly on their phone while I’m having a conversation with them. This is by far, the rudest thing someone could do – and I used to be a part of this.
I mean, it’s perfectly alright to check your phone every so often – because we all have different priorities with work, family and relationships – but having your phone to your face constantly while we are having a conversation just makes me believe that you’re just not interested at all.
The best thing I could have done while I was out with a friend was to leave my phone in my purse. I wasn’t as tempted to grab it and check Facebook or Instagram, and the only time I would use it was if I needed to text or call one of my family members, or my boyfriend. Prior to having it in my purse, it was always on the table or in my hand.
We need to let go of our smartphones, and realize that it’s not necessary to be checking social media when we’re out with a friend. You won’t have good conversational skills with anyone if there’s a constant need to check Facebook (or any of the other sites) while you’re hanging out with them.
Smartphones need to be used safely and wisely. We need to be careful with what we post, and how we react to certain things being posted. It’s not the most important thing in the world, and many of us need to realize this before it’s too late.